Neurodiverse relationships deserve support.
We’re here to help!
Are you:
later-in-life diagnosed with ADHD, Autism, OCD, CPTSD, and/or AuDHD and need help understanding what that now means for you and your relationship?
frustrated that you have the same arguments over and over again with your partner about “simple and basic things” like remembering to get groceries, do laundry, organize paper piles, or consistently complete household care tasks?
receiving treatment for ADHD individually and want to have a supportive space with your partner to talk about how the condition impacts each of you and create realistic strategies that work for your family?
aware of how ADHD and/or Autism impacts your relationship, but don’t know how to talk about it with your partner because it can feel like you’re speaking different languages?
curious if you have ADHD, Autism, OCD, CPTSD, and/or AuDHD and need help figuring out what next steps to take or what that might mean for you and your relationship?
If you answered yes to any or all of these, you are not alone! We can help!
It’s normal for individuals and couples to need support in neurodiverse relationships. At Tend Therapy and Coaching, we specialize in working with neurodiversity and are glad you’re here!
We know that neurodiverse relationships present unique strengths and challenges for a couple to navigate. We value and appreciate that we have unique brain and body wiring that can be informed and impacted by our genetics and life experiences. Together we work with you and your partner to better talk about these differences with honesty, curiousity, and care.
Our approach combines our expertise as an ADHD Clinical Services Provider with our training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an evidence-based model of therapy that is proven to help decrease conflict, improve communication, and increase secure bond & connection.
How does couples therapy for neurodiverse relationships work?
We have a roadmap that is proven to support couples to increase connection, improve communication, and feel more like a team!
Step 1: We get to know you and your unique relationship.
We talk about:
goals for therapy,
fears and hopes for the process together,
your personal life histories and family backgrounds,
mental health conditions (including prior and/or current diagnosis, assessments, characteristics, and treatments),
and where you currently get stuck in the relationship.
We build a safe and trusting therapy relationship and space for both partners to feel heard and held.
Step 2: We organize your negative distress cycle and better understand what each partner needs.
It’s normal for relationships to have a negative cycle where we get stuck and feel further apart even when we might be trying to come closer together. During therapy sessions, we work together to organize, understand, and make sense of your relationship tendencies. We look at what happens within each of you and between the two of you.
We help slow down the arguments so that each partner is better understood. We work together to identify the symptoms/characteristics of ADHD, Autism, OCD, CPTSD and/or AuDHD that show up and how those may impact your cycle tendencies.
We also help with finding and accessing individual resources like ADHD Coaching, Occupational Therapy, Executive Functioning Coaching, Psychiatrists, Support Groups, etc. if/as that may be helpful.
As we work in sessions to make more sense of the cycle, understand neurodiversity, and identify the attachment needs driving the cycle, couples will see their relationship start to improve outside of sessions.
Couples often report that conflicts happen less often and with less intensity. Communication starts to improve. Partners begin to feel less alone and more like a team.
Step 3: We decrease conflict and increase connection and vulnerability in the relationship.
Now that we have a clearer picture of the cycle tendencies, the unique characteristics of each neurodiverse partner, and their attachment needs, we dive deeper into core challenges in the relationship. At this point, couples are able to stay present and better regulated within themselves and with their partner.
During sessions we support and guide partners to share more vulnerably and receive each other with curiosity and care. Couples feel more heard and make progress with solving problems.
Couples strengthen their bond and are able to better handle challenges from a connected and secure place. Couples now can work better as teammates to incorporate bonding rituals and executive functioning strategies into their daily lives and home.
Couples have a better understanding and appreciation for their differences and how to manage them together.
Step 4: Couples are now better connected and able to care for their individual and relationship needs.
As couples reach their therapy goals, some couples continue with therapy on a regular basis to nurture their relationship and keep up their communication practices. Other couples may choose to move to an “as needed” cadence with sessions.
Together we celebrate that the couple has invested the time and resources to improve their connection and bond!
Couples often report that not only has their relationship improved, but other areas of their life have as well, including at work, with friends and family, and in community.
Couples are always welcome to reach back out in the future if and when seeking support, needing a relationship “tune up”, or facing a new relationship challenge or milestone.
FAQs
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It is common for partners to be in different places when beginning the therapy process. Often times we may feel pretty disconnected at that point and unsure of what the other person or even ourselves wants and needs.
We are experienced at working with couples that come in with different thoughts, feelings, and experiences related to therapy. We will work together to better understand each partner and create a shared agenda for therapy.
Sometimes couples that are in different places may benefit from a process called Discernment Counseling. This is a process that helps each partner get clearer about their agenda and have conversations about the future of the relationship. We are trained in Discernment Counseling and will talk to you about if your relationship would benefit from this approach prior to beginning Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
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We encourage you to reach out! During our complimentary consultation and/or intake process and initial session, we will get to know more about you and your relationship. During those conversations, we can talk more about any questions you might have related to neurodiversity.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor, we can conduct mental health assessments and diagnosis for mental health conditions. That being said, we do not provide full neuropsychological evalutions but can refer to a psychologist and/or psychiatrist that does if/when that would be helpful or necessary for your treatment plan.
We are committed to helping you have a clear understanding of yourself and your relationship. We have a depathologizing approach and do not think that everyone has to pursue a formal diagnosis, but can help support clients that could potentially benefit from that process.
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We offer 50 minute sessions and 75 minute sessions. We also offer extended 100 minute sessions for Discernment Counseling sessions.
Couples tend to benefit from 75 minute sessions so that there is enough time and space for each partner to share and participate. That being said, some couples benefit from 50-minute sessions because it is easier to add into their schedules or because that’s what works best for their focus and attention needs. We will discuss session times and cadence and create a schedule that works for you!
On average clients come to therapy for 12-20 sessions to see and experience the changes they want in their relationship. Of course, this timing can vary depending on the relationship and the partners. Some variables that might impact the pace and length of therapy are histories of each partner, including any trauma histories, potential mental health conditions and/or substance use concerns, goals for therapy, life schedule, finances, etc.
We will work with you to assess and determine your customized therapy goals, and optimal therapy timeline.
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Session rates are $210 for 50 minute sessions and $315 for 75 minute sessions.
We do not work directly with insurance, but we can provide you with a Superbill statement for potential out-of-network reimbursement depending on your plan coverage.
You will receive a Good Faith Estimate with your intake documents.
Tend Therapy and Coaching offers some reduced fee slots for clients that may be experiencing financial hardships or burdens during the course of therapy. We invite conversation about this if this applies to you.
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We provide secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth therapy and coaching services for residents of Colorado and residents of Florida. We also provide coaching services worldwide.
Therapists join the session from a private office with no distractions and use a secure, HIPAA compliant telehealth platform. We appreciate that telehealth allows clients to conveniently join the session from the location of their choice. We recommend that clients are in a safe, comfortable, and private location with minimal to no distractions. Clients can conveniently attend therapy sessions from their home, private office, parked car, and/or while walking in their neighborhood.
Tend Therapy and Coaching office locations are based in Denver, Colorado and Jacksonville, Florida. We service clients throughout Colorado and Florida via secure telehealth sessions.
Many of our clients in Colorado are located in Denver, Boulder, Golden, Vail, Steamboat Springs, Estes Park, Fort Collins, and Colorado Springs.
Many of our clients in Florida are located in Jacksonville, St Augustine, Amelia Island, Ponte Vedra Beach, Orlando, Tampa, Boca Raton, and Sarasota.
We plan to offer services in additional states as the Counseling Compact becomes available. Until then, if you live outside of Florida or Colorado, talk with us about coaching services.
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To get started with couples therapy, you can either:
Submit a New Client Inquiry Form and we’ll reach out to you within 24-48 business hours.
Give us a call at 720-295-2292
Email us at hannah@tendtherapyandcoaching.com
Schedule a complimentary 20-minute consult via our online scheduler here
Schedule an initial 75-minute couples therapy session via our online scheduler here
Once we’ve scheduled an initial session, we will send you intake documents to complete prior to the initial session. Intake documents and scheduling can be managed via our secure Client Portal.
We’d love to support your relationship!
Interested in working together for Couples Therapy?
Please fill out some info and we will be in touch within 24-48 business hours.