Relationships need support.

We’re here to help!

Do you:

  • Get stuck in the same argument over and over again?

  • Try hard to get your partner to understand but still feel unheard and alone?

  • Try to walk away to give the conflict some space but your partner insists on talking about it?

  • Feel more like roommates who talk about schedules and meals but no longer feel like intimate and romantic partners?

  • Try to talk about the problem right away but your partner shuts down?

  • Feel like you’ve tried everything and aren’t sure what to do next or if your relationship is compatible?

  • Want more engagement with your partner but feel too tired by the end of the day to do anything together?

If you answered yes to any or all of these, you are not alone! We can help!

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It’s normal for couples to get stuck in arguments and feel disconnected. Our approach to couples therapy understands that we all get stressed out when our relationship feels off.

How we show our stress may look different from how our partner shows it - some of us shut down and close off to try to contain the conflict, while some of us talk louder to try and get our partner to understand.

There is nothing wrong with you if this happens. Using an attachment-based approach to couples therapy, we understand that your body and brain have learned relational patterns and strategies to try to keep you and your relationship safe.

We use Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, an evidence-based model of therapy, proven to help couples decrease conflict, improve communication, and increase secure bond & connection.

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How does Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy work?

We have a roadmap that is proven to support couples to increase connection, improve communication, and feel more like a team!

Step 1: We get to know you and your unique relationship.

We talk about goals for therapy, fears and hopes for the process together, your personal life histories and family backgrounds, and where you currently get stuck in the relationship.

We build a safe and trusting therapy relationship and space for both partners to feel heard and held.

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Step 2: We organize your negative distress cycle and better understand what each partner needs.

It’s normal for relationships to have a negative cycle where we get stuck and feel further apart even when we might be trying to come closer together. During therapy sessions, we work together to organize, understand, and make sense of your relationship tendencies. We look at what happens within each of you and between the two of you. We help slow down the arguments so that each partner is better understood.

As we work in sessions to make more sense of the cycle and the attachment needs driving the cycle, couples will see their relationship start to improve outside of sessions.

Couples often report that conflicts happen less often and with less intensity. Communication starts to improve. Partners begin to feel less alone and more like a team.

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Step 3: We decrease conflict and increase connection and vulnerability in the relationship.

Now that we have a clearer picture of the cycle tendencies and attachment needs, we dive deeper into core challenges in the relationship. At this point, couples are able to stay present and better regulated within themselves and with their partner.

During sessions we support and guide partners to share more vulnerably and receive each other with curiosity and care. Couples feel more heard and make progress with solving problems.

Couples strengthen their bond and are able to better handle challenges from a connected and secure place. Couples now work together as teammates and incorporate more bonding rituals into their daily lives.

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Step 4: Couples are now better connected and able to care for their individual and relationship needs.

As couples reach their therapy goals, some couples continue with therapy on a regular basis to nurture their relationship and keep up their communication practices. Other couples may choose to move to an “as needed” cadence with sessions.

Couples are always welcome to reach back out in the future if and when seeking support, needing a relationship “tune up”, or facing a new relationship challenge or milestone.

Together we celebrate that the couple has invested the time and resources to improve their connection and bond!

Couples often report that not only has their relationship improved, but other areas of their life have as well, including at work, with friends and family, and in community.

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FAQs

  • It is common for partners to be in different places when beginning the therapy process. Often times we may feel pretty disconnected at that point and unsure of what the other person or even ourselves wants and needs.

    We are experienced at working with couples that come in with different thoughts, feelings, and experiences related to therapy. We will work together to better understand each partner and create a shared agenda for therapy.

    Sometimes couples that are in different places may benefit from a process called Discernment Counseling. This is a process that helps each partner get clearer about their agenda and have conversations about the future of the relationship. We are trained in Discernment Counseling and will talk to you about if your relationship would benefit from this approach prior to beginning Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.

  • We offer 50 minute sessions and 75 minute sessions. We also offer extended 100 minute sessions for Discernment Counseling sessions.

    Couples tend to benefit from 75 minute sessions so that there is enough time and space for each partner to share and participate. That being said, some couples benefit from 50-minute sessions because it is easier to add into their schedules or because that’s what works best for their focus and attention needs. We will discuss session times and cadence and create a schedule that works for you!

    On average clients come to therapy for 12-20 sessions to see and experience the changes they want in their relationship. Of course, this timing can vary depending on the relationship and the partners. Some variables that might impact the pace and length of therapy are histories of each partner, including any trauma histories, potential mental health conditions and/or substance use concerns, goals for therapy, life schedule, finances, etc.

    We will work with you to assess and determine your customized therapy goals, and optimal therapy timeline.

  • Session rates are $210 for 50 minute sessions and $315 for 75 minute sessions.

    We do not work directly with insurance, but we can provide you with a Superbill statement for potential out-of-network reimbursement depending on your plan coverage.

    You will receive a Good Faith Estimate with your intake documents.

    Tend Therapy and Coaching offers some reduced fee slots for clients that may be experiencing financial hardships or burdens during the course of therapy. We invite conversation about this if this applies to you.

  • We provide secure, HIPAA-compliant telehealth therapy and coaching services for residents of Colorado and residents of Florida. We also provide coaching services worldwide.

    Therapists join the session from a private office with no distractions and use a secure, HIPAA compliant telehealth platform. We appreciate that telehealth allows clients to conveniently join the session from the location of their choice. We recommend that clients are in a safe, comfortable, and private location with minimal to no distractions. Clients can conveniently attend therapy sessions from their home, private office, parked car, and/or while walking in their neighborhood.

    Tend Therapy and Coaching office locations are based in Denver, Colorado and Jacksonville, Florida. We service clients throughout Colorado and Florida via secure telehealth sessions.

    Many of our clients in Colorado are located in Denver, Boulder, Golden, Vail, Steamboat Springs, Estes Park, Fort Collins, and Colorado Springs.

    Many of our clients in Florida are located in Jacksonville, St Augustine, Amelia Island, Ponte Vedra Beach, Orlando, Tampa, Boca Raton, and Sarasota.

    We plan to offer services in additional states as the Counseling Compact becomes available. Until then, if you live outside of Florida or Colorado, talk with us about coaching services.

  • To get started with couples therapy, you can either:

    Once we’ve scheduled an initial session, we will send you intake documents to complete prior to the initial session. Intake documents and scheduling can be managed via our secure Client Portal.

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We’d love to support your relationship!

Interested in working together for Couples Therapy?

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